Dealing With Imposter Syndrome & How To Feel Enough

By Emma Colsey | Uncategorized

Mar 08

I have spent the earlier part of my adult years struggling to feel as though I was enough both in my work life and in social circles. It was never about disliking myself or who I was, it wasn’t even a lack of self-belief. I’ve always had the ability to dream big, that little fire that was burning inside of me, a knowing that I could go on to do and create the things I want in life.

But still every time I did something to push the boundaries of my comfort zone I would have an overwhelming sensation of Imposter Syndrome.

I’d catch the thoughts running through my mind that would whisper:

  • You don’t know as much as you should
  • But you aren’t as good as ……
  • I’m not funny or smart enough
  • What if people find out I’m not good enough
  • Who am I to go after that goal?
  • I probably need to go and do another qualification before I can…..
  • I need more experience
  • What if they don’t like me
  • I don’t fit in

The list could go one with a slightly different variation of why I couldn’t feel enough.

Good ole douse of imposter syndrome is what I see so many amazing women getting stuck with because it impacts your ability to take ACTION!

You feel the deep frustration of knowing that you aren’t stepping into your full potential. You know there is a gap between where you are and where you want to be, but you just get confused about knowing where to start.

And even if you do make a start, in comes imposter syndrome again, so instead you wind up procrastinating as you get overwhelmed with the enormity of it all.

Sound familiar??

Well, you are not alone I assure you. In 2019 a study showed that 47% of the workforce deals with imposter syndrome. Yet that number increases substantially if we look at female entrepreneurs as this number increases to a whopping 89%!!!

So it’ pretty common right. It shows up when a normally confident person convinces themselves that they aren’t good enough, despite the evidence that others may see something completely amazing. Maybe even someone has been telling you that you are awesome, but that just doesn’t register for you still, you just can’t seem to see or feel it for yourself.

That’s because you have to believe it for yourself, you have to delve a little deeper than you have been doing, to come and question the narrative, it simply doesn’t matter what others say or think.

Clare Josa, an expert in imposter syndrome describes it as:

‘Imposter syndrome isn’t just self-doubt in a spiky suit. It’s the gap between who you see yourself as being and who you think you need to be in order to succeed”

She goes on to explain that those struggling with imposter syndrome will often be dealing with:

  • Perfectionism – Setting ridiculously high standards that are almost impossible to achieve
  • Procrastination – Putting off ding things in favour of cute cat video’s on the internet
  • Paralysis – Hoping that the thing will go away. Ever left that assignment or project until the very last minute?
  • People Pleasing – Having a lack of boundaries and overgiving to everyone else and putting your own needs at the bottom of the pile.

So if you resonate with any of these then yes, you may well be dealing with imposter syndrome.

The good news is, that is doesn’t have to be this way.

By taking a deeper dive into your self-talk, your beliefs, your values and your overall identity you can break through what at times feels completely debilitating.

And this is exactly what I’m working on this month with our Shine Squad members. Deepening the work and looking at the 5 steps to how you can finally start feeling as though you are enough.

How different would you feel in your life if you could feel enough? How would it impact your results and those around you? How much happier would you feel?

Ditching imposter syndrome is what has helped me to continue to go on and keep making progress towards my goals, but more than that it brought around feelings of confidence. Of knowing who I am, what I stand for and a shift in my deeper identity. To identify with loving the person I am, knowing where I am going and trusting in myself and the process. With that comes a deep appreciation for the day to day, joy in the journey towards your bigger goals and desires.

To freaking love the life you are living!! How incredible would that feel for you?

For those that are ready to finally take the leap, to make the decision that you too are going all in after your goals and become a badass #goalgetter CLICK HERE to come and join us now over in the Shine Squad

To say NO MORE to imposter syndrome!!

It’s not always an easy one to ditch. But with the right tools, guidance and support it’s absolutely one that will change your life if it’s something that has been blocking you for some time.

I can’t wait to help you ditch the imposter and to rise and shine as the badass you know you are put here to be.

I’ll see you on the other side.

Love Always

Emma

PS – If you ever have questions about the Shine Squad, or any other was in which you can work with me. Email me at info@emmacolseynicholls.com now I’d love to hear from you and discover if working together is the right fit for you.