Could This Be Stopping You From Reaching Your Goals?

By Emma Colsey | Uncategorized

May 12

Could This Be Stopping You From Reaching Your Goals?

How often are you functioning on autopilot. Truth is that for many of us, it’s a LOT during our normal day to day ‘busy’ lives.

I don’t know if this is the case for everyone, but maybe you have felt the ability to slow down that little bit of late? Then this concept I am going to be sharing with you today may come to be a bit easier to practice, or maybe you have already started to notice yourself doing this more now you have the space for it.

If you still are going full pelt then this can help you to actually manage that pace but also in creating more happiness and fulfilment along the way

You see going all in, being able to multitask and get shit done is a badge of honour. Hey look, I’m all about productivity and getting shizzle done, it’s the whole emphasis of the Get Your Shit Together Life planner (FYI you can get your FREE copy of that HERE if you don’t have one already)

BUT not at the expense of leading you to burnout.

The goal of all the work I do, is to help you reach your goals, but in a way that feels freaking awesome and I believe that is possible for everyone who is willing to take the ideas and concepts on board.

Achieving your goals, but also enjoying life along the way, comes from being consciously aware of our actions. Because all of the planning in the world is all well and good. But when push comes to shove and you actually don’t follow through with the actions because you have reverted to an old default pattern (erm procrastination anyone!?!?!) even when you don’t want to. You are going to find yourself falling short from hitting those goals time and time again.

Your default patterns could be the things that are keeping you stuck, despite your best intentions for wanting to create change.

Yes I am still prone to a good ole dose of procrastination as one of my own go to patterns, that and turning to food are my favourites I constantly have to be aware of. Though I am now far better at catching these, and a big part of that comes from continually retraining my awareness.

We all spend huge periods of time each day in autopilot. We are simply not fully aware of everything around us all the time, with the bazillions of stimuluses constantly surrounding us it would be impossible to be consciously aware of everything without feeling a little bat sh!t crazy. 

If, for example, you are reading this email with a cup of tea or coffee to hand, you will not have concentrated fully on the process of drinking and tasting the drink on each occasion you sipped it! You have learnt to drink without great concentration!

Likewise we walk, drive, swim, do dishes etc. without a high level of concentration. It’s autopilot and just that thing that you do. Cue arriving at your destination in the car and having no real memory of the process of actually driving to get there.

We need an element of this automation to fit in all of the things that we want for our life, yet at the same time it’s robbing us from some of the simple pleasures of living. It also teaches us to use autopilot by default, our go to mode that increases the likelihood of negative patterns and behaviours, such as those triggered by stressful situations or thoughts, cause us to revert to defense mechanisms. This then becomes the overriding behaviour. The one that we feel we have no control over, like the inability to stop eating, stop procrastinating, stop going down a spiral of worrying or stressful thoughts.

We revert to autopilot as a defence mechanism, it’s a type of protection or a way to ‘deal’ with life without actually having to ‘deal’ with the real thing.

It’s not just as easy to tell someone to wake up, to pay attention or snap them out of it. Believe me I have tried that with my husband who is real good at this one.

The mind is so FULL of an abundance of thoughts, worries, stresses, ideas, we don’t have the capacity to bring in attention to the task at hand.

So how do we train our awareness so that we can actually follow through with getting things done, sticking to the things we say we want to do, but also allowing ourselves to experience life and happiness at the same time?

It starts with bringing an element of mindfulness into place in the easy mundane tasks, so that it can begin to become a practice. Something that you consciously do time and time again so you can create that active awareness of your choices, so that when you experience a trigger moment that usually drives you into autopilot and undesired default pattern, you can instead choose something different.

This is the focus of this week’s mini training over in the Shine Squad. I’m sharing 3 powerful practices to help you process, refocus and to create more joy in moving away from reverting to negative automated behaviours that have been keeping you stuck on your best intentions. Instead empowering you to make the choice in creating the actions that help you move forwards towards those goals that you set for yourself at the beginning of this month.

If you are ready to step out of the default mode and into actively living and creating the life that you desire, CLICK HERE to join us this week over in the Shine Squad.

Love Always

Emma